Uncoupling: The End of a Relationship

Uncoupling: The End of a Relationship

In 1976, sociologist Diane Vaughan coined the term “uncoupling” to describe the series of stages toward ending a relationship. She found uncoupling proceeds like this: UNCOUPLING Dissatisfaction: The partner initiating the process starts to become unsatisfied with the relationship and begins thinking about what they really desire out of life. Some describe a sense of…

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How to Talk to Your Spouse About Mediation

Couples often reach out about the mediation process for the separation, divorce or custody, but are not sure how to approach the subject with their partner or significant other. Perhaps the mediation process sounds like a good choice for your family but having the initial conversation may be difficult. Chances are, it may already be…

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Things to Consider Before Divorce

Before Divorce Consider

Before starting a divorce, consider taking steps to ensure a smooth mediation process. Rushing into a legal and financial separation is not wise and can end up costing you and your family financial and emotional heartache. Here are a few things to consider before beginning the divorce process. 1. Individual Therapy Working on yourself before…

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Mediation Resources

There is a wealth of information available about divorce, but couples in mediation often desire specific tools and resources to facilitate a peaceful separation and co-parenting plan. Below you will find a list of my favorite resources, including links for mediation and conflict resolution. Books Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, Gabrielle Hartley…

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Why Mediate?

Why Mediate?

Mediation tends to be peaceful and positive. Most families prefer to make decisions together rather than using an adversarial court process. Mediation encourages cooperation and agreement and is a relatively simple process compared to alternative methods. AVOID COURT! Your family does NOT belong in court. Family matters should be private and confidential. Most parents and…

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MEDIATION MISTAKES

NOT PREPARED Each of you must prepare your documents and gather information for each mediation session. Taking the time you need to organize your finances, and sharing information with your partner early on will save you time and money in the long run. If information is missing or incomplete, it can be difficult to make…

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Mediation for Alienated Parents

Mediation is a helpful tool to bridge the communication gap between alienated parents. Mediation clients often share that one or more of the children “refuses” to see the other parent or does not want to see the other parent during their designated visitation schedule. Over time, this behavior may result in the other parent becoming…

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