Posts by DClement
Frequently Asked Questions About Mediation
How long does it take? Most mediation cases will take between one and three sessions. We meet together in my office or using the Zoom platform for 2-hour sessions. We schedule sessions a week or so apart so that you have time to gather the information you need between appointments. If you are both prepared,…
Read MoreThe Six Stations of Divorce
As couples divorce, they may experience different phases during the process. In 1970, anthropologist Paul Bohannan proposed a model consisting of six stations, or types, of divorce: EMOTIONAL, ECONOMIC, CO-PARENTAL, COMMUNITY, LEGAL and PSYCHIC. The mediation method is a gentle tool to help guide couples through these stages of the divorce process. THE EMOTIONAL DIVORCE:…
Read MoreNo-Fault Divorce Mediation
Mediation can be used for any divorce, however, most mediation couples will choose the uncontested, no-fault divorce option. In Pennsylvania, a mutual consent no-fault divorce is the cheaper and faster option. CHOOSE NO FAULT. There are several different types of divorces in Pennsylvania. When a couple makes the decision to end a marriage, the decision…
Read MoreMediation for Separation
Are you considering separation? If so, it may be helpful to decide on the terms. Generally, there are two types of separation—informal and formal. Whether informal or formal, a separation can be physical, financial, or both.
INFORMAL SEPARATION
In an informal separation or trial separation, couples can use a mediator to agree to terms, including finances, custody, support, and other arrangements, without signing any legal documents.
Read MoreUncoupling: The End of a Relationship
In 1976, sociologist Diane Vaughan coined the term “uncoupling” to describe the series of stages toward ending a relationship. She found uncoupling proceeds like this: UNCOUPLING Dissatisfaction: The partner initiating the process starts to become unsatisfied with the relationship and begins thinking about what they really desire out of life. Some describe a sense of…
Read MorePay Attention!
Avoid Divorce: Pay attention to these important responses from your partner.
Read MoreHow Much Does Divorce Cost?
A mediated divorce costs between $1,200 – $5,000.
Litigated divorce averages $20,000 +.
Divorce/custody battles can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars.
How to Talk to Your Spouse About Mediation
Couples often reach out about the mediation process for the separation, divorce or custody, but are not sure how to approach the subject with their partner or significant other. Perhaps the mediation process sounds like a good choice for your family but having the initial conversation may be difficult. Chances are, it may already be…
Read MoreThings to Consider Before Divorce
Before starting a divorce, consider taking steps to ensure a smooth mediation process. Rushing into a legal and financial separation is not wise and can end up costing you and your family financial and emotional heartache. Here are a few things to consider before beginning the divorce process. 1. Individual Therapy Working on yourself before…
Read MoreMediation Resources
There is a wealth of information available about divorce, but couples in mediation often desire specific tools and resources to facilitate a peaceful separation and co-parenting plan. Below you will find a list of my favorite resources, including links for mediation and conflict resolution. Books Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, Gabrielle Hartley…
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