What to Expect After Divorce Mediation
If you have recently completed mediation, you have taken the best possible path towards a brighter future. Mediation takes courage, patience, and a commitment to a peaceful outcome. After divorce mediation, there are a few important next steps to ensure a smooth transition.
1. Review Your Mediation Documents Carefully
Take the time to carefully read the first draft of your mediation documents. The draft gives you an opportunity to reflect, identify any questions or concerns, and ensure the language accurately reflects your understanding of the agreement. Now is a good time to consult with an attorney, financial advisor, or tax professional – their advice can provide you with peace of mind.
You may make changes to your document before printing and signing, as long as you both agree. If you would like extra clarity or if a conflict arises, consider scheduling a “Document Review Session” with your spouse or co-parent. This meeting allows us to review the document together, address specific sections or concerns, and make any necessary edits before you finalize the agreement.
2. Finalize
Once you have completed your careful review, be sure to:
- Save the draft document and the final document to your computer or cloud drive.
- Remove any “DRAFT” watermarks.
- Print two copies – one for each of you.
- Sign and initial all pages in blue ink.
- Each of you should keep a fully signed copy for your records.
3. Update Your Information
Now is the time to revisit your accounts and estate plans:
- Be sure to complete account transfers and title changes in a timely manner.
- Update beneficiaries on life insurance, retirement accounts, and similar assets.
- Draft a new Will and Testament to reflect your post-divorce or post-separation intentions.
- If required, prepare a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) after your divorce is finalized to divide retirement funds.
4. Tax Considerations for Parents
If you are sharing or alternating child tax exemptions, remember to complete IRS Form 8332. Your accountant or the IRS website can help you obtain and submit this form correctly.
5. Keep Records and Communicate
Keep copies of all disclosures, payment records, and supporting documents used during mediation in a secure location. If financial difficulties arise or if any aspect of your agreement becomes unworkable, communicate promptly. A short mediation session can often prevent unnecessary conflict or court involvement.
6. Agreements Can Be Adjusted
Life happens. If both of you agree to a change in terms—whether it’s about support, parenting time, or something else—you are free to do so. Just remember – only written agreements signed by both of you are legally enforceable.
7. Be Mindful of Joint Debts
If one of you has agreed to pay a joint debt, that does not mean the other person is off the hook in the eyes of the lender. Stay in communication and make alternative arrangements if financial issues arise. Scheduling a mediation session can typically resolve most issues and provide you with peace of mind.
8. Considering Remarriage? Plan Ahead!
If you plan to remarry, a mediated prenuptial agreement can be a wise step to clarify financial expectations and protect your future. A mediated prenup helps you transition to your next chapter peacefully and transparently from the beginning.
9. Reach Out for Help
Mediators do not file court documents or offer legal or financial advice. If you have agreed to file for a no-fault divorce in Pennsylvania, the filing party should initiate the process in a timely manner. If you are not sure how to proceed, mediation-friendly professionals are available to help you finalize the process. Please reach out for a list of qualified professionals!
Thank you for choosing mediation!
Each of you has taken an important step toward resolving difficult issues with respect and cooperation. Thank you for trusting me to guide you through this process. If you found mediation helpful, I would be grateful if you shared your experience with others who might benefit from a peaceful approach. Your referral helps other families find a better way forward.