Divorce and separation can be stressful even if you are entering into the process amicably. If you are stressed out, and your children or loved ones are noticing, it may be time to start taking care of yourself.
Your children will notice your stress.
Your children may start to notice your divorce stress, and they may begin to feel your tension and worry. As parents, we try to keep our emotions under wraps, but our body language and voice tone easily give away our mood and feelings to others. If you need extra support, consider reaching out to a therapist, coach, clergy, or other trusted professional to guide you through this difficult time.
Pay attention to your emotions.
Pay attention to your emotions and be aware of the effects of negative self-talk during the divorce process. You have the power to change your negative thought pattern and feelings. Be aware of the voice inside your head telling you things that are hurtful and false. Quiet the voice by singing your favorite song or shifting your negative thoughts to positive self-talk.
Stay physically active.
To combat divorce stress, stay physically active, or start a new exercise program. I have found that going for walks and spending time in nature helps me to keep stress at bay. Making time for ourselves gives us the energy to tackle the day-to-day challenges we all face. Try yoga, it is an excellent tool for mind and body awareness and can give you freedom from the mental and physical pain you might be feeling. Look for an online class or local studio near you.
Eat a healthy diet.
Food is a powerful emotional force during times of divorce stress. Eating junk food will have an impact on your emotions and how you feel about yourself. There is a close relationship between diet and mood, and when your nutrition is good, your mood and outlook will improve. Focusing on healthy food habits and nutrition and ending emotional eating behaviors will also help keep your children healthy during this process.
Practicing mindfulness during the divorce process can be as simple as setting aside a quiet moment and listening to relaxing music or starting a meditation practice. Mindfulness is a tool that can help you learn to calm yourself when emotions are running high. It can help to let go of the worry about the unknowns in the future and the things you cannot change in the past. Your children will benefit if you become more present and mindful, and at ease.
Get some rest.
Sleep is critical for our well-being and can help heal our bodies and minds when experiencing divorce stress. Restful sleep can change how you interact with your children and co-parent or spouse by elevating mood and improving concentration. It can be challenging to find rest in the chaos of divorce or separation, if this is difficult for you, start with small steps. Limiting device time, meditation, and yoga nidra are helpful tools when restful sleep is unpredictable.
Choose a peaceful divorce or custody process.
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